Posts Tagged: parenting

Accepted and Rejected Children in School-Age Friendships

The good news for parents is about 80% of children fall within the “accepted” children friendship group. 1 These children have at least one friend who protects them from experiencing long, lonely days in school. The 20% However, the remaining 20% are part of the “unclassifiable” group; they may have no friends at all. Psychologists…

The Power of Childhood Friendships

Some of us can still fondly remember long summer days and recess hours spent with our closest pals, making mud pies, catching ladybugs and generally having lots of fun. As it turns out, the effects of those adolescent friendships last well into adulthood.

This article provides four tips to help you encourage your children to develop strong, meaningful friendships.

“Do you work?”

When I think of May, I think of Mother’s Day. Have you ever been at a social gathering and someone inquires, “Do you work?” My gut reaction is, of course I work. Doesn’t every mom work? But I also know the inquirer really wants to know if I hold an important job that requires a…

Our Heart Attitude

Perhaps you’ve grumbled about a co-worker, “She always has such a bad attitude. I can’t stand being around her.” Maybe you’ve been told, “You have a bad attitude,” or said to your teen, “When you change your attitude, I’ll talk to you.” Last week I spoke to a group of moms. One segment of the…

Book Review: Slouching Towards Adulthood

I just returned from a cruise where I heard parents talking about how many of today’s high school graduates are not emotionally prepared ready for college.  A discussion ensued about Stanford’s freshman counselor who found students unprepared and wrote the book, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Over-parenting Trap and Prepare Your…

Teach Your Children: Reducing Negative Peer Pressure

When parents consider school-age peer pressure, perhaps they imagine the ways the child himself must resist the pressure. Although we’ll look at the child’s role in a later blog, there are parental roles that help reduce negative peer pressure for their school age children. Teach Your Children A great principal for reducing negative peer pressure…

Peer Pressure: 5 to 8 Year Olds

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” —Dr. Seuss Since school age children are experiencing peer pressure, what does it look like? You may hear a child say, “If you’re my friend, you’ll play this game with me,” or “I’m mad…

Preschoolers and Choices

As a college professor, I chose what committees I happily wanted to serve on. If the college dictated which committees I must be on, I wouldn’t have been happy. What about you? Do you serve well if you have choices or have choices made for you? Our preschoolers are no different. They too like to…

What is Bullying?

How would you describe bullying? Has your child been bullied? Have you? When I taught a workshop at the California Association for the Education of Young Children (CAEYC) in Pasadena for adults working with children in the primary grades.  Over 50 educators actively participated in my workshop: Bullying 101: Helping the Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander:…

Pretend and Imaginative Play

My three-year-old grandson, Parker, gravitates towards playthings with push buttons while we stroll down the toy aisle. He hopes the buttons will make sounds and “talk” to him. As a child development specialist, I’m not too thrilled with his fascination because these toys don’t leave much to the imagination. “Grams, this one doesn’t make any…