Restorative Practices

Restorative Practices in Schools Workshops for Educators, Parents & Students

Introduction. The workshops offered are divided into three sections. The first section features workshops for educators, the second section is for parents/caregivers, and the third section is for students. The workshops are identified as introductory, intermediate, or advanced. The length for each workshop is also noted. Some workshops are offered in Spanish while a few have a pre-requisite. Check out the new workshops offered. Updated August 23, 2022.

For Educators

NEW Integrating Mindfulness into Everyday Classroom Culture (Introductory)

“In today’s rush we all think too much – seek too much – want too much – and forget about the joy of just being.” – Eckhart Tolle. Mindfulness is paying attention in a particular way. Participants will explore the benefits of mindfulness in the classroom, examine 7 mindfulness myths, learn how to introduce mindfulness with students, consider the phrase do no harm, and discuss social-emotional learning competencies. Integrated throughout the workshop are participatory mindfulness activities. Participants will leave with resources for books and apps that will help educators begin using mindfulness in the classroom.

NEW Building Community Using Circles and Picture Books (K-3rd grades) (Introductory)

Learn how your students can connect deeply and personally to the books they read. Using the restorative practices framework, educators can develop safe, supportive spaces in schools by creating community-building circles around picture books. This workshop for K-3rd grade educators begins with an overview of restorative practices in education, circle guidelines, community building circles basics, and connections to CASEL’s social-emotional standards.

Using social justice picture books, participants will experience the circles process and learn how they can engage students deeper into their learning through circles while holding meaningful and powerful conversations about how they felt as we read and listened to the story. Not only will participants walk away by understanding the process, but they’ll be equipped with the resources to replicate this powerful strategy in their own classrooms. Workshop Length: 1 hour

NEW Changing Lenses: The Power of Restorative Practices (Introductory)

This workshop is based on change. Changing our lenses on how we view students, school discipline policies, and the power of restorative practices to change lives. Participants will begin this workshop by creating and presenting a portrait of a frequently referred student. We’ll explore differences, similarities, and predictions. Then we’ll examine school discipline policies that lead to the school-to-prison pipeline. Participants will leave with a vision of how implementing restorative practices has the power to change the lives of both students and staff. Because this workshop strategically uses small groups, it is best for groups of 15 or more. Workshop Length: 1 hour

The Restorative Elementary Teacher (Introductory)

This introductory workshop is perfect for those new to the principles and practices of restorative practices. This workshop is from the perspective of the elementary student who describes eight strategies that the teacher uses to create a restorative classroom, such as my teacher is respectful when talking about feelings, my teacher apologies and encourages classmates to apologize if they’ve hurt someone else and my teacher does things with me as opposed to for me or to me. Workshop Length: 1 hour

The Restorative Secondary Teacher (Introductory)

How can a secondary teacher with five or six classes every day with over 200 students implement restorative practices? This introductory workshop is perfect for those new to the principles and practices of restorative practices. It is based on the acronym RESTORE: Reinstate, Re-establish, Return, Bring Back, Give Back. The basics of what the restorative secondary teacher looks like is the foundation of this workshop. The workshop will conclude with a personal reflection, Am I Truly Restorative? Workshop Length: 1 hour

Social Emotional Learning & Restorative Practices (Advanced)

This workshop begins by introducing the five Social and Emotional Learning Core Competencies. Common Characteristics of Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) and RP provide the foundation of the workshop. We’ll look at how SEL Supports the Development of RP and vice versa. We’ll also consider implementing SEL and RP together using schoolwide strategies.. Participants will experience both a SEL and RP activity that builds skills. Small group and discussion included.  Workshop Length: 1 hour

Special Needs & Restorative Practices (Advanced)

Special Education students are part of the school community, and they matter. Restorative practices in schools can improve and support the practices of special education teachers, staff and school counselors. Exploring the RP Intersection is Important for Inclusion. We’ll begin with looking at the RP basics that are required for a chance of success. Special needs students can gain essential social skills with restorative practices. We’ll end the workshop by adapting restorative questions for special needs students. Workshop Length: 1 hour

Trauma Informed Care (Advanced)

In this 45-minute to 1-hour workshop, start the process of incorporating knowledge of trauma and brain changes to your curricular considerations. Spend time learning about trauma processes in the brain, learning and memory impact, and study about small adjustments in teaching that can have a big impact in the effectiveness of leading a class with students under intense stressors.

Self-Care for Educators (Intermediate)

Are you tired after work, dreading the next day or sleep challenged? Learn the symptoms of burnout and take the Professional Quality of Life Scale (PROQOL) Survey. As educators we have direct contact with student & colleagues. Your compassion for others can affect you in positive and negative ways. Learn about self-care, how to avoid burnout and the ABC’s of Self-care. Workshop Length: 1 hour

Dr. Fritzemeier’s Favorite: Restorative Apologies, Beyond Just Saying Sorry. Elementary or Secondary (Introductory)

Do you know that insincere apologies can cause more harm than help? They are also ineffective in many situations. In this workshop, Restorative Apologies connects restorative questions with potential apologies. Rather than just saying, “I’m sorry,” which is often not genuine, participants learn how to help others make a full apology. Full apologies usually have three parts corresponding to verb tenses: past, present, and future. The 3-part model is easy to learn and implement. Tips on responding to repetitive apologies with no change in behavior and a computer program students can use to write apology letters are included. Pre-requisite: Introduction to Restorative Questions. Workshop Length: 45 minutes

Restorative Circles 101: Circles Basics  (Introductory)

Whether building community culture, restoring relationship after harm, or delivering content, Restorative Circles are a fundamental tool used in the restorative process. A key principle in Restorative Practices is having a school community and environment to which students want to be restored. Restorative Circles are a well-known method used to build school culture, address harm caused in a school community, and convey content in a way that builds socio-emotional skills, empathy, and students conscious of the school environment and community.

Participants will learn the basics of running a Restorative Circle in a classroom setting, developing and keeping circle guidelines, the importance of circle structure and methods, and how to conduct community building or connecting circles. Participants leave with actionable steps towards immediate implementation. Workshop length: 1 hour.

Restorative Circles 102: Intermediate Circles (Intermediate)

Building upon Restorative Circles 10, this workshop continues developing circle skills through teaching circle formats for helping with problem-solving, addressing harm done to community members, and decision making. Participants will leave with knowledge and resources to utilize circles to address these issues in their school community. Pre-requisite: Restorative Circles 101. Workshop Length: 1 hour

Restorative Circles 103: Content Circles  (Intermediate)

School faculty and staff regularly cite “lack of time” as a significant hurdle to implementation of circles in the midst of high levels of demand in their positions. Content circles utilize the structure and benefits of the circle format to convey classroom content. Restorative Content Circles are a great way to engage both the academic learning while also teaching valuable communication skills, empathy, and socio-emotional skills. Pre-requisite: Restorative Circles 101. Workshop Length: 1 hour

Restorative Practices in Modesto City Schools (Introductory)

This is a perfect presentation for those new to the principles of restorative practices in schools. Zero tolerance and punishment that doesn’t work for many students has led to what’s now known as the school-to-prison pipeline. But there’s good news.

Modesto City Schools District’s LCAP (Local Control Accountability Plan) has included Restorative Practices as one alternative to decrease suspensions and improve school climate since 2013-2014. Discover principles of restorative practices, implications of the restorative practices pyramid, and what’s happening in the District with implementation at twenty-nine sites. Come learn why restorative practices works and how its changing lives of students and staff. Available in Spanish. Presentation: 30 minutes.

Overview of Restorative Practices in MCS for School Site Councils or Instructional Leadership Teams (Introductory). The above workshop is adapted and includes what’s happening at 25 Modesto City School’s sites with cohorts, site teams, training and implementation. Presentation: 20 minutes.

The Power of Affective Statements (Introductory)

This workshop introduces the most informal restorative response and the easiest tool for building restorative relationships. Affective statements are responses to others’ negative or positive behaviors. Participants learn the purposes of affective statements and ten characteristics of high quality affective statements; Practice using the statements in various situations gives participants a jump-start on how to use the statements. Discussion questions allow reflection on multiple aspects of using affective statementsParticipants are challenged to use this new skill to develop the emotional literacy of students and improve school culture. Workshop Length: 45 minutes.  

Introduction to Restorative Questions (Introductory)

Using restorative questions is the foundational skill for anyone who works at schools implementing restorative practices.  A partner share activity introduces participants to daily discipline situations where they can use restorative questions. A role play demonstration depicts how the questions are asked first with the offender, followed by questions for the victim. Important tips are included about resolving the conflict as well as why we don’t ask students, “Why did you do that?”

Participants will experience the roles of the school employee, victim, and offender as they role play in triads. Alternative questions are featured for special education students, primary grades, upper elementary and secondary students. Participants reflect on their role play experiences and leave equipped to use their newly acquired skill. Workshop Length: 45 minutes.

Social Engagement Window for Educators (Introductory)

“The fundamental hypothesis of restorative practices is that students

are the happiest, healthiest and most likely to make positive changes

 in their behavior when teachers do things with them

rather than to them or for them.” []

Educators will determine their teaching style as they learn about the four quadrants of the Social Engagement Window: To, Not, For and With. When teachers work with students using this framework, the results for students’ behaviors are surprising. A video, discussion and personal reflection make this workshop engaging and practical. Workshop Length: 1 hour.

Most Popular Workshop – Dodging the Power-Struggle Trap: Elementary or Secondary (Introductory)

Are you relieved when certain students are absent? Do you have students who “push your buttons”? Do you find yourself butting heads with the same students day-after- day? How do students “trap” educators? 

Learn specific strategies to respond to challenging behavior in a way that is intended to prevent escalation and conflict of power. This workshop features 10 techniques to deescalate power struggles including restorative practices techniques. Options are also available for yard duty and campus supervisors. Workshop Length: 45 minutes.

7 Effective Guidance Techniques for Yard Duty or Campus Supervisors (Introductory)

This workshop engages participants in simple yet powerful strategies to guide students’ behavior. Guides include: use a confident voice, redirection, positive language, avoiding methods that lead to loss of respect, defining limits and maintaining consistency, reinforcing directions, and being alert to the total situation. After each guide is presented, participants “practice” what they learned. This workshop offers basic foundation for those newer to these roles and practice for those with more experience. Workshop Length: 1 hour.

Peace Paths (Introductory)

In partnerships with North Modesto Kiwanis and Marty Villa, M.A., Peace Paths are painted at cohort elementary school sites. Training on the Peace Paths are offered  for students and/or staff. Workshop Length: 45 minutes.

10 Strategies for De-escalating Students’ Behaviors (Introductory)

Do you work with students who are triggered by something and their behaviors escalate quickly? Do you find yourself caught off guard and unsure of what to do? What are current methods for de-escalating students’ behaviors? This workshop offers 10 effective strategies to help de-escalate students’ behaviors whether in the classroom or outside the classroom. Workshop Length: 45 minutes.

Today’s Disconnected Students (Intermediate)

This workshop includes the need and benefits of adult-student relationships, how students are disconnected (often related to life events, trauma and chronic stress), challenges with disconnected students and discussion on how reaching these students. minutes. Recommended to be offered before Connecting with Disconnected Students. Workshop Length: 1 hour.

Connecting with Disconnected Students (Intermediate)

Teachers are busier than ever. Yet more students arrive with challenging behaviors and are the ones who most need a caring adult. Educators spend so much time on students’ disruptive behaviors, little energy is left to reach them. This workshop features 8 to 12 strategies educators can use today. Learn how you can take a few minutes here and there to invest in building relationships with disconnected students. Recommended pre-requisite Today’s Disconnected Students. Workshop Length: 1 hour.

Fine Tuning the Nuances of Restorative Questions (Intermediate)

You know the restorative questions. You use them with students and staff. But sometimes they feel awkward while at other times you get stuck. Is there anything else you can do? This workshop, Fine Tuning the Nuances of Restorative Questions, helps participants introduce restorative questions to students, effectively deal with students’ interruptions, use a conversational style, summarize the process and reach an agreement, and determine when to go beyond apologies. With practice time included, you’ll fine tune how you effectively use restorative questions with others. Workshop Length: 45 minutes.

More Effective Guidance Techniques (Intermediate)

Many staff that work with students are frustrated with discipline challenges. This workshop begins by answering two questions that will improve guidance and decrease frustration. What doesn’t work or is inappropriate when guiding children or teens? What’s the difference between willful defiance and irresponsibility?  

After reviewing the Seven Guidance Techniques, participants will learn three more effective guidance techniques: ignoring; offer choices; and natural consequences. The workshop culminates with discussion focus on connecting guidance challenges with techniques that work. Pre-requisite: Seven Effective Guidance Techniques for Yard Duty or Campus SupervisorsWorkshop Length: 1 hour.


Workshops For Parents/Caregivers

NEW Dodging the Power-Struggle Trap for Parents (Introductory)

Does this sound familiar? You ask you child or teen to do something, and it ends with opposition, aggression, or apathy to your request? Power struggles typically do not end well. They create distance and hostility instead of closeness and trust. Where do power struggles come from and what are our kids trying to achieve? In this workshop, parents/caregivers learn specific strategies to respond to challenging behavior in a way that is intended to prevent escalation and conflict of power, techniques to deescalate power struggles including restorative practices techniques, and how we can transform power struggles, so our kids learn important life skills including self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation, and problem-solving skills. Workshop Length: 1 hour

NEW Restorative Parenting: Building Stronger Relationships with Your Children/Teen (Introductory)

Your student’s school is using Restorative Practices as an alternative to punitive discipline. How can you use these strategies at home? Parents/caregivers will understand the basics of Restorative Practices and how and why to incorporate them into their parenting. Through practice and discussion, parents and caregivers will learn skills through a Restorative Practices lens. These include the social engagement window, the use of affective language and restorative conversations to promote accountability and repair of harm for both children/teens and parents. Workshop Length: 1 hour

NEW Helping Kids (or Teens) Change Their Behavior (Intermediate)

Restorative practices are based on the fundamental belief that our children (or teens) are the happiest, healthiest and most likely to make positive changes in their behavior when parents/caregivers do things with them rather than to them or for them. []

Based on the social discipline window, parents will discover where their discipline style lies on the four quadrants: To, Not, For and With. When parents/caregivers implement discipline using this framework, the results for children’s behaviors are surprising. An overview of the quadrants and styles, video clip, and a reflective circle make this workshop engaging and practical for parents. Workshop Length: 45 minutes.

Restorative Practices in Modesto City Schools (Introductory)

See description above.

Restorative Practices & the Home School Connection: Elementary (Introductory)

Have you heard about the school-to-prison pipeline? Are you concerned with the number of students suspended from schools? This workshop begins by addressing school discipline concerns and explains why punishment doesn’t work. The school discipline change features a shift from rules and punishment to relationships and restorative approachesParents will role play restorative questions that are used at school and can easily be used at home. Workshop Length: 1 hour. Available in Spanish.

Restorative Practices in Schools: Secondary (Introductory)

This workshop will introduce parents to changes in school discipline at their students’ school site. Participants will learn why punishment doesn’t work for many students and how changing our questions about adolescents’ misbehavior shifts from breaking rules to repairing relationships. Parents will role play restorative questions that are used at school and can easily be used at home. Workshop Length: 1 hour. Available in Spanish.

How to Use Restorative Apologies with Your Kids (K-6th) or Teens (7-12th Grades) (Introductory)

Do you know that some apologies can cause more harm than help? Do you know why these types of apologies are ineffective? In this workshop parents will connect restorative questions with potential apologies. Rather than just saying, “I’m sorry,” which is often not genuine, parents learn how to help their children make a full apology. Full apologies usually have three parts: past, present, and future. The 3-part model is easy to learn and use at home. Workshop Length: 1 hour.


Introduction to Restorative Questions: Elementary or Secondary

Restorative Apologies: Elementary or Secondary

The Power of Affective Statements

Restorative Apologies

Introduction to Restorative Peer Leaders: Elementary or Secondary Students

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Comprehensive Training

Year 1: The Foundation of Restorative Practices in Schools

Brochure Restorative Practices in Schools Year 1 Rev April 18 2022

Year 2: Leading Change with Confidence

Year 3: Continuity, Collaboration, and Community

Brochure RP 5 Year Training Overview Rev 4 18 2022

Participant Materials

If you are enrolled in Dr. Marian’s Restorative Practices course, click here to access the participant materials. Note that this page is password-protected.

Quotes & Videos

“Releasing teachers from their classrooms for professional development can be delicate. If they are going to spend the time, they want it to be relevant, engaging, delivered by competent trainers, and include some practical take-aways they can apply in their classrooms the next day. All of these were true of the Restorative Practices training provided to MCS by Youth For Christ. It has been a valuable experience that I would not hesitate to repeat. Positive approaches to student discipline are critical pieces in changing schools and communities. I can think of few training topics that hit so close to the core of having the potential to change the educational trajectory of our youth.”

— Mike Henderson, Senior Director Human Resources, Modesto City Schools

Restorative Practices Seminar, Day 1: Introduction, Dr. Marian Fritzemeier, Ed.D.

“When the District decided to begin training our sites on Restorative Practices, it was important we found a contractor who was knowledgeable, engaging, and able to persuade our staff to see the importance of using an alternative approach to school discipline. Youth for Christ exceeded our expectations in all of these areas. Their trainings were of top quality, activity-oriented, and they used a collaborative coaching model to assist our sites in moving forward. I would highly recommend contracting with Youth for Christ to any District interested in implementing Restorative Practice.”

— Mark Herbst, Associate Superintendent, Modesto City Schools

Restorative Practices: Innovators for Change, Dr. Marian Fritzemeier, Ed.D.

Restorative Justice and Cheating College Students, Dr. Marian Fritzemeier, Ed.D.